| *** These question are serious and will help in writing several articles and a book I am preparing. *** |
| 1. Please rate the following statements by how you would apply them to yourself, and as honestly as possible. |
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| *** You may choose more than one in each category *** |
| 2. but answer as simply as possible. |
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| 3. If you would like to write an explanation for your answers, you may. |
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| 4. All responses will be kept confidential. |
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| *** Self-Image: *** |
| 5. I am a Hottie |
No |
| 6. I am Eye Candy |
No |
| 7. I am Beautiful |
I am a woman, therfore I feel beautiful just being me. |
| 8. I am Good Looking |
When I look in the mirror, I am happy with what I've got. I accept all of me. |
| 9. I am Okay |
Sometimes |
| 10. I am Not Attractive |
Sometimes |
| 11. I am Fat |
No |
| 12. I am a MILF |
Ha ha ha! I have been told that before. |
| 13. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** I Dress the Way I Do, Because: *** |
| 14. I feel like it |
Kind of |
| 15. I want to |
I buy clothes that look good on me and I feel comfortable in. |
| 16. I need to |
No |
| 17. I feel powerful when I do |
When I have a big meeting, I enjoy wearing my POWER suits, makes me feel confident. |
| 18. I love what I wear |
Usually, but there are times I wish I could afford some nicer clothes |
| 19. I like the response I get, even if it's not the response I want |
No |
| 20. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** I Like It When: *** |
| 21. Men look at my Pictures on MySpace |
Nope, I have my profile Private. |
| 22. Men get "excited" over my pictures on MySpace |
Not that I know of |
| 23. Men relate to me as a desirable female |
Some do, yes. I am very outgoing and approachable I think. |
| 24. Men leave me messages about how "Hot" I am |
I have had a couple of those, but they just get ignored. |
| 25. Men pay any attention at all to me |
They do, but I don't care. |
| 26. Men leave me alone |
Depends on the man |
| 27. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** It Bothers Me When: *** |
| 28. I am posing in a way to illicit a response from men in pictures |
No, I don't do that. I don't go looking for attention from men. |
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| 29. I men judge me as an object |
YES, we are humans, not objects..but not all men are like that. |
| 30. I am treated as less than special |
No, we can't be special to everyone. I know I am special to the people that matter. |
| 31. People don't seem to see the "real me" |
Not true for me, what you see is what you get! |
| 32. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** I am Happiest When: *** |
| 33. I am appreciated |
Yes, we all want to feel appreciated. |
| 34. I am treated with respect |
YES, if you don't respect me, then I won't even deal with you. |
| 35. I am acknowledged |
Sometimes is fine, it doesn't have to be every little thing, but definitely sometimes is nice. |
| 36. I am loved |
Absolutely, who doesn't like to feel loved! |
| 37. I am sexy |
I like to look good and feel sexy sometimes, absolutely it makes me happy when I feel sexy. |
| 38. I am shopping |
No, shopping is really not my thing. |
| 39. I am successful |
Yes, I am very proud of myself when I am successful in my life. |
| 40. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** What I Need Most in Life to Feel Fulfilled is: *** |
| 41. Love |
Before no, but now yes. Since I have found love, I don't know what I'd do without him now. |
| 42. Respect |
Yes, respect is very important in all aspects of life. |
| 43. Happiness |
Yes, life would suck being angry all the time. |
| 44. Sex |
Yes, for me at this point, it is very important in my life. |
| 45. Money |
Somewhat, I just want enough to live comfortably and take care of my son. |
| 46. Clothes |
Not major as long as I have some to wear, that's fine. |
| 47. A Hug |
Hugs are great, absolutely I love hugs! |
| 48. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** The Biggest "Pain" I Deal With is Because I was/Have Been *** |
| 49. Lied to |
YES, this is HUGE with me! Don't lie to me, I just have no patience for it. |
| 50. Hurt |
Physically - nothing major that affects me now |
| 51. Abandoned |
Yes, my mother left when I was 15. I have not seen her in 13 years, but have talked to her here and there. |
| 52. Injured |
Nope |
| 53. Raped |
Almost once when I was younger. |
| 54. Victimized as a Child |
No |
| 55. Heartbroken |
Yes, but that happens in life. |
| 56. Other:___________ |
No |
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| *** I deal with the Following: *** |
| 57. Addiction to medications/drugs (prescription or otherwise) |
Nope |
| 58. Alcohol |
Nope |
| 59. Over-eating |
Nope |
| 60. Temper/Anger |
Nope |
| 61. Depression |
Sometimes, but I think it's normal to get down sometimes. It's just part of life's ups and downs for me. |
| 62. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** My Biggest Fear Is: *** |
| 63. I won’t be a success |
No, I 'll do whatever I have to do to be a success. |
| 64. I won’t be taken seriously |
Nope, I will kick **** and take names |
| 65. I’ll go unnoticed |
No I don't fear that |
| 66. I won't be a good wife |
Yes, I hope I'll be what he expects, as long as it's not ridiculous! |
| 67. I won't be a good mother |
I am a mom already, sometimes I wonder about certain decisions, but I just do my best. |
| 68. I will never find a partner in life |
No |
| 69. I made a mistake getting together with the one I'm with (married or not) |
Not anymore, I divorced that one. |
| 70. I will never get married |
No I don't fear that |
| 71. I will never find a partner who is "worthy of me" |
No |
| 72. I am not worthy of being loved by someone |
No |
| 73. My children will not be well adjusted |
I did fear that before, but he is doing great. |
| 74. I am going to hurt my children |
No |
| 75. I am going to hurt myself (or hurt myself again) |
Yes, I am definitely afraid to get my heart broken. |
| 76. I am a powerful person |
No |
| 77. I will be successful |
No |
| 78. I will not know how to handle success when it comes |
No, I will welcome it! |
| 79. I am afraid of people |
Sometimes, so many crazy people out there...it is scary sometimes. |
| 80. I am afraid of going outside |
No |
| 81. I am afraid of speaking in public |
YES |
| 82. I am afraid of being raped (or raped again) |
No |
| 83. Other:___________ (see this list for some examples: http://www.phobialist.com/reverse.html) |
No |
| *** I Prefer the Company of: *** |
| 84. Men |
Yes, I get along with all kinds of people. I'm very social when I want to be. |
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| 85. Women |
Yes, I get along with all kinds of people. I'm very social when I want to be. |
| 86. Teens |
If it's family, otherwise not really. Teens can be very difficult |
| 87. Children |
Yes, babies and toddlers...I love stooping to their level and playing games with them. |
| 88. Girls |
Sure |
| 89. Boys |
Sure |
| 90. Elderly |
Family - yes |
| 91. Other:___________ |
No |
| *** I My Perfect World I Would Be: *** |
| 92. A Model |
No |
| 93. A Singer/Musician |
Sure if I could sing! I absolutely love music! |
| 94. An Actor |
No |
| 95. A Director |
No |
| 96. A Manager |
Yes - with the career path I am on, manager is a goal for me. |
| 97. A Mother |
I am and I love it! |
| 98. A Bride |
One day, maybe |
| 99. Loved by Anyone |
No |
| 100. Loved by Someone |
Yes, my man now - forever |
| 101. Find love that was real and lasting |
I think I have. |
| 102. Other:___________ |
No |